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Do you have habits? Surely there is. And sometimes completely incomprehensible. Many of you, for example, are afraid to open the umbrella in the room, walk under the stairs, knock on the tree “for good luck” or spit over your left shoulder when meeting a black cat.
And some create whole rituals. For example, you go to work along the same route, and it is difficult for you to change it, even if a more convenient option has appeared.
We have habits and rituals, here we are very similar. They can be both useful and harmful.
For example, rituals are important when communicating with relatives: they make it possible to understand each other and not confuse, for example, playing with a real battle.
This is me playing with my friend Branko. Although from some it may seem to some that this is not a game at all.
Sometimes a ritual can be a salvation, in particular for fearful animals. For example, if a dog knows that they put on a collar before going out for a walk, and wash their paws after returning, she already at the moment you pick up the collar knows what will happen next. Walking along a familiar route is also a kind of ritual. All this creates a sense of predictability, and therefore, control. And reduces anxiety.
You have the same thing. If a person believes that wearing a “happy outfit” will ensure a successful day, he will feel more confident.
In what some people call "equestrian sport" (although this is a terrible occupation, and I fought for a long time and paid dearly not to participate in this) rituals are sometimes used by you.For example, there are so-called “self-propelled horses” that have learned the dressage pattern and run it, regardless of what the person above does. This helps unskilled riders to gain ranks and worthless sockets.
But sometimes rituals begin to interfere. Especially when they become obsessions. For example, you left the house in a happy dress, but found that you forgot an even happier scarf - and you feel that a disaster will happen now. You start to shake, behave awkwardly and thereby “attract” trouble. Smart people call this a “self-fulfilling prophecy” (I have reliably hidden the dictionary so that I don’t take it away).
Or you are walking with a dog along a familiar route, and a fallen tree blocked the road. You have to go around - and your four-legged friend begins to go crazy with anxiety, because everything is not going the way he used to!
Or take the same dressage. If the scheme changes, it will be very difficult for you to convince the “self-propelled” horse to change the usual scheme of actions. Nervous she will be scared!
Or so I knew a village horse who drove milk. Once the route changed, but she continued to drive stubbornly along the old route. And she took all the changes with hostility and resisted.
And then people start to get angry and blame us for being bad.
But before you call us "slaves of habits", you would look at yourself. Aren't you slaves of habits? Even your children sometimes are obsessive in behavior (for example, they really do not like to step on cracks on the sidewalk), what can we say about adults.
Obsessive habits can be dealt with.But it takes time and patience. Both in yours and in our case.
We are not so different, are we?